This essay is where our url came from.
This essay is where our url came from.
Man it’s really weird when there is a super hot babe guy that you wanna look like but also that you wanna sleep with.
HOW DOES THAT EVEN WORK?!
Apparently there are some shithead tumblrs by some “allies” who spend all their time complaining about how unappreciated they are, so I just wanted to give some examples of ally appreciation I’ve personally shown.
When my ex-husband and I broke up, he explained to his family and friends that I am gay and later that I am dating a woman who is transgender. He said that he was very happy for me to be finally living the life that reflects who I am inside and he would not tolerate anyone giving me shit about it.
I cried and hugged him and thanked him and will never stop thanking him.
When I came out to my mom, she was a little uncomfortable at first but then announced proudly to her family that I am gay and later, that I am dating a woman who is transgender. She said she would not tolerate anyone who gave me any trouble about that and she loves us both. She has since given several family members quite a hard time for not respecting this so that we don’t have to.
I thank her all the time.
When I had to go to a funeral, I explained to the girl behind me at work that we only have one bigoted family member to worry about. She said “That’s a lot.”
I thanked her for understanding.
One day in class, I was giving a presentation and somebody who didn’t even know I’m gay started making comments about lesbians. My professor saw me become uncomfortable and asked him to leave the class.
I smiled and thanked her and gave her class a great review.
All of these allies have one thing in common: they stood between me and bigotry. They saw me being hurt and they stopped that person from hurting me. Me. So I thanked them. I did. Not every other gay person on the planet. Not all lesbians. Not all transgender people. They did not and do not ask other queers for cookies and praise and thanks. That would be fucking ridiculous. They do not expect me to thank them when whatever it is they’re doing is simply a lack of bigotry (ex: voting for equal marriage, not saying “faggot”) This would also be ridiculous.
They do not do these things for the same reason that you do not thank a friend for getting gifts for your other friend, or for not punching your other friend in the face. Doing so would mean that you didn’t respect that other friend as a human being, or that you saw them as a different kind of person who did not deserve the same kindness as everyone else by default.
When you do that shit, we hate you. That’s why. So fuck off.
We live in a world where it’s more acceptable to dislike yourself and openly say “I am ugly” rather than actually appreciate yourself and openly say “I am attractive” because how dare you feel good in your skin and say it out loud, what an awful human being you are, you can’t walk around thinking you’re good, you piece of shit.
Cy Twombly, The Fire That Consumes All Before It
Iceland made history this week, but not in a good way. For the first time since the nation became an independent republic, armed police shot and killed a man, startling a population accustomed to peace.
"The nation does not want its police force to carry weapons because it’s dangerous, it’s threatening," Arnorsdottir says. "It’s a part of the culture. Guns are used to go hunting as a sport, but you never see a gun."
In fact, Iceland isn’t anti-gun. In terms of per-capita gun ownership, Iceland ranks 15th in the world. Still, this incident was so rare that neighbors of the man shot were comparing the shooting to a scene from an American film.
The Icelandic police department said officers involved will go through grief counseling. And the police department has already apologized to the family of the man who died — though not necessarily because they did anything wrong.
"I think it’s respectful," Arnorsdottir says, “because no one wants to take another person’s life. “
Reading this as an American makes me feel like I’m from ANOTHER FUCKING PLANET.
You know what I find to be resistance?
Relationships that are respectful, trusting, loyal, and loving.
Fuck poly vs. monogamous politics. Just do relationships with pure intentions.